Posted by admin | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 11-08-2009
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to widely held love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn him off and have her looking for the door.
Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.
It’s more commonplace these days for a real woman to speak her mind and communicate openly from his heart. The ability to openly communicate is a prized attribute and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or your life partner, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Men the most important thing to know is what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What’s important to you? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when he’s] the right one.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
