Posted by admin | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 08-11-2009
I decided at some point in the year gone by that I would search and find my soul mate online. I had avoided taking this drastic measure for several years but it seemed like everyone I know, including friends and co-workers, are signing on, creating profiles, and finding that special someone online. If they can do it, why can’t I?
Looking for the Right Notes
Life, just like the notes on a sheet of music, is rhythmic. People may vary but you want to one day hear the full concerto. I knew that when I could find my soul mate, the missing notes in my life would be found. An enduring addition can happen to your life’s rhythm when you have a soulmate.
Being a novice in the world of internet dating, I was initially hesitant about sharing my personal information online. I wasn’t sure of how to draw the attention of people. Neither was I sure of how much to share about myself. To identify the best way to handle them, I started reading methods used by other users which have proven successful. The material that came up through the search was very inspiring.
I discovered that I was not the only skeptical first-timer out there. Cynderella and her current husband first met in a chat room. She was deprived of choice in regard to dating options because she was from a small town in a rural area. Like me, her friends suggested she try internet dating.
IN just a week, Cynderella met MJ. Having received an emoticon of interest from him, she examined his dating site profile. She responded for she found what she saw to be intriguing. This in turn led to a month filled with IMs and emails flying back and forth between them. The couple finally took it to the next level and met offline.
As they lived in different states, Cynderella caught a flight to go and see MJ . Even while stepping off the plane she grew sure that she had finally found her perfect match. “From being a nervous nelly, I had become a self-confident woman who was willing to fly across the country to see a man. Online dating made me feel more powerful and capable of actually controlling my own life. I was fortunate enough to find my soul mate and we now live together happily….and of course, in the same state” says Cynderella. The music was loud and clear for all to see even if the glass slippers were missing.
Surprises That Make You Happy!
As I continued searching for my soul mate I came across Mark’s story. Mark was still in college when he met H2O. A dating site banner popped up as his friends and he were surfing the internet. They decided to explore the site as a joke.
That same night Mark’s friends made a bet with him. They said they’d wash his athletic gear for a year if Mark could get a date on the online site within a month. Mark decided to take them up on their offer.
He made his profile and started chatting with women, most of whom were highly offended by the bet but Mark continued to be honest for as he says “I wanted to be upfront about the bet so that it doesn’t become an issue later on”.
The end of the month was drawing near and Mark assumed he had lost the bet. he’d have to wash his gear and that of all his friends for the whole next year.
Two days before the end of the month Mark happened upon a profile and photo that caught his interest. Immediately, he shot off an email to her, she responded and they chatted the whole night. Since H2O also lived in a nearby town, they agreed to meet up at a local movie theatre. The bet didn’t offend her. ”She has an incredible sense of humour” according to Mark. “After dating for just 6 months we knew we wanted to be together forever. We are now engaged and plan to get married in 2010.”
Liking the Music
While trying to search for love I was led to great success stories, but it also showed me the problems you can face if you are not careful. Like Mad4You who met a man online that displayed common interests and matched all the criteria laid down.” Mad4You says she was very attracted after just a few chats. However, there were problems. Nothing stops a person who claims to be divorced from a previous spouse from being married now!”
I was also surprised at the number of single parents looking for love online. Single parents have found great matches according to many singles. Ensure the compatibility of your kids, when looking for true love !
Yellowtutu met the man of her dreams on an internet dating site. She was a single mother of 3 teenagers. Digthis, whom she connected to, had 2 sons from a previous marriage. She informed her children about him after having communicated with him for many months.
When out on their first date, Yellowtutu’s daughter fell crazily in love with Digthis’s son. He too was attracted towards her and so they started meeting without their parents knowledge for over a year. Mad4You and Digthis eventually realized they were not the perfect match and the kids told their story.
“It may not have worked for me but I am able to justify my experience with this man and not feel I wasted my time. My daughter and his son have 2 fabulous children and have been happily married for over 3years now” says Yellowtutu. I realized that despite my focus being on finding my own soul mate, online dating can take unexpected turns.
Yes…rhythyms are an integral part of life. When you do finally find your soul mate, or I do mine, we must make sure to listen closely. The notes will become fuller and the music will swell.
