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You shouldn’t be shocked to discover that the most effective way to learn more about a woman is to ask her questions. I’ve seen lots of lists of dumb “date questions” for you to ask like “If you could have one super power, what would it be?” but these just come off as forced routines that don’t really bring the two of you closer together. These will only hurt your chances with the girl.

You shouldn’t devote your energy to these stupid questions. What you want to do is just talk to the woman naturally. Guys often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Ultimately, these corny routines will only get in the way of having a good connection with a girl. Try to stop approaching the situation by thinking so much and try to be more in the moment when you’re with her.Pay attention to how she behaves and start to really care about her experience.  You’ll never be at a loss for words .

Too many guys also just ask questions that can be answered with a “yes” or a “no”. If you do this, stop it. This is creepy and it comes across as if you are interrogating her.

Are you from around here? – Yep.

Do you work in the city? – Yep.

Do you like cats? – Nope.

Is this conversation getting under your skin? – Yes.

Instead, ask questions that require an explanation and make her put some of herself out there.

Which part of town do you like the most? – Definitely the XYZ District. I just moved there, in fact.

Oh yeah?  What makes you like it so much? – It just has so much character.  It’s really amazing. blah blah blah.

This isn’t anything tough.

Ask the woman things about her life. Try to really see things from her point of view and how she feels. Start to drill down deeper into her emotions by asking the girl questions like “What did that make you feel?” and “What was it like when XXX happened?”  Watch how she acts when she describe things and drill down on those too.  Ask her things like “You seemed a little worried when you told me about your job. Is there something wrong at work?” This can even lead to the girl discovering things about herself that she didn’t even know herself.

After doing this for a bit, you will likely start to feel a strong connection and it will seem like everything else in the world just falls away. The two of you could be in the most chaotic dance club in town, but you will feel like you’re completely alone with the girl.

Now isn’t that a huge improvement from just scraping by by asking “What’s your favorite kind of movie?”

So, just ditch the stupid date questions and just have a real legitimate conversation. Just bring yourself completely to the interaction and allow whatever happens to happen. Start to take a real interst in the girl and get to know her as a real person.Go ahead and ask her anything, as long as you genuinely care about her answer.

If you liked this article, please also check out how to pickup women, asking questions to a girl, and how to start a conversation with a girl.

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