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Approaching women can be hard for anyone. And it’s harder still, if you’re shy. But meeting attractive women doesn’t have to be hard, if you know how to approach them. No matter how beautiful they are, and no matter how shy you are.

It all comes down to a system that has been proven to work over and over again with all kinds of women in many different environments.

Do You Need To Pick Up A Girl Tonight?

Perhaps you assume it’s something that’s past your abilities, to go out and meet a lady tonight, but that’s in all probability because you don’t understand the proper way to appeal to women. It doesn’t matter if you are shy. You just have to be ready to work at it, which is something you need to be doing anyway, right?

Quite a lot of the time, guys will put limitations in the way of success, so for a lot of shy guys, an important factor is to break down the boundaries which might be stopping you from successfully approaching women. That’s why this article focuses on those obstacles that we will all put in place, however equally we are able to all smash those boundaries, no matter how ineffective at approaching ladies, you think you are.
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What You Don’t Need To Successfully Approach Ladies

Believe me, there are numerous issues that men, attempting to improve their pick up abilities, get hung up on. Let’s check out these boundaries that get in the way of attracting lovely women.

Model Looks

Numerous guys assume that it’s important to seem like a male model or Hollywood star to attract lovely women. Some guys, who’ve not had much luck with girls, may think you need to have model looks, to successfully approach women, whether they’re supermodels or simply your common girl next door type.
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This is simply not true, because nearly all of women are more concerned about how a person makes them feel, rather than how the man looks. So, let me tell you all now, you don’t have to appear to be a model to successfully approach ladies, men. Let’s begin eliminating the reasons now.

Cash and Expensive Automobiles

That is another widespread barrier, which stops quite a lot of guys from meeting the hot women of their dreams. Don’t let this one stop you, because it’s not something you can easily change, and even for those who may, most women wouldn’t change their opinion of you.

Your automobile just isn’t your persona, and the cash in your pockets won’t make up for bad pick up technique. If you want to approach enticing women, you need to get past that kind of thinking.

Whatever Different Boundaries You Can Think Of

There are any number of things you can put in the way of meeting beautiful women but they are all based on a lack of confidence, which will disappear very quickly when you try out the approach techniques and start to get great reactions from girls.

Do not let a lack of confidence get in the way of your happiness. When you can approach people with confidence it will open new doors to a fantastic and rewarding life.
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You ever wish you could go back in time and just recreate all of the feelings you had for one another on the first date? Well, I’ve got a few ideas that might help you grab a hold of that old feeling.

The truth is, life can take its toll and sometimes we just grow a little too old with one another and it’s pertinent to work hard at bringing our youthful selves back to the forefront.

Although our physical selves will continue to grow older, it doesn’t mean we have to let that happen on an emotional level as well. Yes, there will be days when things get routine, but we can always vouch for a little excitement from time to time. Don’t you think?

Now this idea, I consider it to be something that you can only use once in a while. Simply because it too would become a predictable routine if used too frequently. Also, because it’s based on timing and money.

And since neither of those things are always available at the time we want them to be… you just may have to stash this one away until you find the appropriate time to use it.

The Date in the Making…

I was thinking a fun thing to do when things get a little stale is spend a few days away from one another. Now, before I go any further, let me say this isn’t a bad thing. This is all geared toward adding a little extra fun in the mix, if you’re up for a small adventure.

The two of you may be getting along famously, but if you’re looking for a little more festivity this could be it.

Here’s how I have it all in mind…

You can sit down with your partner and collaborate on which one of you will spend a couple of days away from home. If you have a relative in town this could be the option you take or if money isn’t a problem you could spend a couple of days in a hotel.

Once you’ve come to an agreement then it’s time to put the rest into action.

Okay, so let’s say your husband decides to be the one to spend a couple of nights at a hotel.

Right now, you might be wondering why he needs to leave the house at all.

Well, there is one very important reason why this is a good idea. Once the both of you separate and spend some time apart, functioning without one another for several days makes the anticipation of seeing each other again a lot more exciting.

The two of you are able to reconnect with the reality of spending time apart. Things will happen in your day that you’ll be able to converse about later, and vice versa.

Another reason is that it induces appreciation for the other person. Sometimes we take each other for granted, but when we spend time away from one another, it’s a lot easier to see how important that person is to us.

But I don’t want to get ahead of myself; it will make more sense as I move along, and by the time you’re done reading all of this it’ll all come together nicely.

So, now that you’ve both decided on the fact that he’ll be leaving for a couple of days, the next step is to spend a few days without any initial contact with one another. I consider one day too little, two days to be a fair amount of time, and three days to be just right. But how many days is really up to you in the end.

Once you’ve established that and he’s ready to leave, you’ll also want to make certain that you have no idea where he is staying. It’s important that he keeps this a secret.

Now, for emergency purposes, he may at least want to give you the phone number of the hotel he’s staying at, so that you’ll have a phone number where you can locate him in case an emergency occurs. That way, he’s not forced to give you the name of the hotel or the location. Just a phone number you can use to get in touch with him if need be.

After that, you can simply stash it away in a safe place and trust yourself not to use it unless it’s absolutely necessary.

Now that he’s gone and the house doesn’t feel quite the same without him, consider the following inventive ideas to turn this situation into a one-of-a-kind adventure full of romance and excitement…

All of those days you spent alone without him… keep them in mind, because they will work to your advantage. Because on day three it’s his job to call you up on the phone, whether it be at work or at home, and ask you out on a date!

Once you accept, you can agree on a time, and it’s his job to come and pick you up for your date.

While he’s been away, the house has been quiet, I know. It’s no fun. But now you’ve got something fun to look forward to. Coming together again… and shopping for a new dress!

That’s right, while he’s trying to woo you… you can wow! him.

You haven’t seen each other for three days and he’s planning on taking you some place neither of you have been before. Where? Who knows? That’s his choice. But wherever you’re going… you should be dressed to impress so that when he shows up at your doorstep he’ll be presented with his reward for all of his hard work–A stunning beauty at his side!

So it’s important to shop for something he’s never seen you in. Something you’re absolutely sure he’d love. Just like that of any first date.

Whether he decides to take you to a new restaurant, walk along the beach, or just an intimate dinner back at his place, this is where all of those important or unimportant events over the next few days have some significance.

Chances are both of you have quite a bit to talk about, although it’s only been three days you’ve been away from one another. Three days apart can conjure up a lot of feelings when you love someone and you’re used to them being around.

During your date, it makes for a good time to express what those feelings are and how much you appreciate one another. There are certain valuable things each of you bring to the table of your marriage, and maybe during the time you were apart… you got to see just how much he offered you on a daily basis.

And to add more on top of that… over the last few days, things may have happened in your life that he would normally be there to witness. Well, this time he wasn’t. So why not catch him up? It makes for good conversation—similar to the usual date scenario.

Once the two of you have come to enjoy the evening together, you’ve enjoyed the fine wine and nice dinner, and maybe had some chemistry on the dance floor. Aside from that, he’s enchanted you with his dashing good looks and charismatic smile.

Then once the night comes to full terms, you decide it’s time to go. You had a lovely evening and you reconnect on the way back home.

At least home is where you think you’re going, until he invites you back to his place (the hotel). You accept.

At the hotel, the two of you talk for several more hours and at some point find that old familiar chemistry drawing the two of you close once again. So you decide to stay that night at his place.

Hold on, before I go any further. Let’s rewind…

The two of you are getting along well. Everything is going smoothly. On the way home he invites you back to his place. You decline. He takes the bittersweet rejection smoothly. He drops you off at your house and walks you up to the door.

“I had a nice time tonight.”

“I did too,” he says, and with slight apprehension he leans in to kiss you (he knows he can’t resist. The laws of attraction have been drawing him in all night).

“I’d invite you in for a cup of coffee…” (We all know what that means!)

“Sure. Coffee sounds great,” he says and follows you inside.

Now of course the chance of either of you saying or doing any of that is slim to none, unless you’re role-playing, but that sure was a heck of a lot of fun to write. I couldn’t resist. I was on a roll!

No but seriously, I wrote all of that for a reason. Obviously you are reinventing the first date. One in which you get to choose your own adventure.

The idea of the hotel cannot only be used as a way for the two of you to spend three days apart, but also as an exciting incentive if you want that one-night-stand appeal with your husband–by going back to “his place” which was the importance behind you having no knowledge of where he was staying.

If you have no knowledge of where he’s staying, it’s all a complete mystery, and the suspense of that can add a lot of fun to an already adventurous night.

However, maybe he’ll be homesick and want to head home that night, hence the alternate ending above.

The fun of it is that a lot of it is such a wild card. Both of you have surprises to look forward to and the beauty of reestablishing intimacy in a new way while you choose your own adventure!

Dating Tips : How to Turn Your Partner On

In order to turn a partner on, try being nostalgic, recreate a first date situation, or try role playing. Find out how to use massages to turn a partner on with help from a relationship coach in this free video on dating tips and relationship advice. Expert: Donna Barnes Contact: www.donnabarnes.com Bio: Donna Barnes is a professional life coach, relationship expert, television host, author, columnist and producer, based in New York City. Filmmaker: Paul Muller

I proposed by hacking Chrono Trigger

On October 17th, 2008, I proposed to my (now) Fiancee. Originally I wanted to return to the site of our first date, Mount Baker, near Bellingham Washington. Sadly, there was no discrete way to get her out there. So I turned to the next best thing, digitally recreating the mountain! But why stop there? I figured I’d try and recreate many of our other favorite memories — stargazing, dancing, even her favorite song lyrics (from the Princess Bride). I’m a college student who is studying Computer Science, and I wanted to do something unique that used my talents, so I did some research on Rom hacking, as she was playing through Chrono Trigger. (A perennial favorite of mine, I can’t wait to buy it for my DS.) I even put in her cat, Cleo! I had several goals in mind: First) Keep the area in the context of the original game, the proposal should be a surprise. Second) Get it done quick! I had the ring, I had the Father’s blessing, and you can’t sit on either of those for too long. You’ll notice some of the NPC collision information is missing (the cat runs through a lot of weird places) and I didn’t have time to properly debug every tile. Third) Place memories that might be poignant enough to remind her of our relationship, while not inadvertently giving away that this was somehow hacked.(See goal #1.) Overall, it was a resounding success. She had no idea that this wasn’t part of the original. She asked, “Hey, are those the Princess Bride lyrics? Do the Japanese really love that …

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Being a good flirt has as much to do with not doing the wrong things as it does with doing the right things. Flirting is difficult because there’s such a fine line between being successful and crashing and burning.

It’s so easy to do everything right, but then ruin all of your progress by making one of the all too common mistakes below.

1) Don’t be crude
If you make obvious and nasty sexual innuendoes, you aren’t being a turn on, you’re being a pervert…unless you’re a girl (then it’s ok).

2) Don’t ignore body language
Over 65% of communication is non-verbal. If you aren’t actively looking at the way their body is shifting or what the person’s eyes are saying, you’re going to miss a lot of obvious signs that say “I’m into you, keep talking.”…or…”You’re a freak, and I don’t want you around a second longer.”

3) Avoid being overtly slick
It’s fine to act cool, but don’t go overboard. You won’t seem like yourself…and that’s not attractive.

4) Don’t be silly
Flirting should make your target feel sexy and wanted, not entertained. You want to be perceived in a sexual way…not as the funny guy or girl.

5) Don’t be excessively cute
If you act too cute (unsexy), you’ll be seen as an innocent and nice person. That’s great if you want to be just a friend, but not for anything more.

6) Cut your losses if it’s obvious your actions aren’t appreciated
If your flirtations are clearly visible and you aren’t being flirted with back, it’s time to pack it up and move on.

7) Don’t show fear
Insecurity is perceived as a terribly unattractive sign of weakness. If you want to get your target to take you seriously, you’ve got to hide your nerves. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

Avoid being overly touchy feely…unless you’re a girl
This is specifically aimed at the guys. It’s not appropriate to grope or touch a woman unless you know she likes you. If you aren’t sure that she’s into you, it’s ok to lightly touch her shoulder or graze her arm…but that’s it! Do not put your arm around her waist or constantly touch her shoulder or body. This will freak her out and make her feel terribly uncomfortable around you.

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After much nail-biting and pacing, you’ve finally made the decision to join an online dating service. Now you face the seemingly monumental task of writing your personals ad. Sheesh, you say. How do I do this—especially when the personals you’ve taken the time to read through are so, well, let’s be honest, awful. All those abbreviations! All those long paragraphs! All the fluff that a over-sexed seventh-grade boy could see right through!

The trick to writing personals ads …

…that get noticed are to be original and creative when it comes to writing yours. Think about it. Does a Volkswagen ad read like a Mercedes ad?

Of course not. That’s because though they’re both cars, they are completely different cars—just like two short, blonde women or two tall, brunette men. Other than sharing some physical characteristics and being the same sex, they’re going to be as different as a BMW and a Jeep.

So before you even start pecking away at the keyboard, think of yourself as a brand. This is easier for most people if they stick with the car metaphor. If you were a car, what kind would you be? If you consider yourself to be a Beemer, then your personals ad should be written to highlight your Beemer-ish characteristics. For example, you’d want to include your love of fine white wines and Prada shoes.

On the other hand, if you’re a Beemer wannabe (and don’t feel bad, many of us are), don’t give in to the impulse to describe yourself as Beemer. Not only does this set other people up for a disappointment when they find out you don’t share their interests or meet their expectations, you may, worse, get stuck having to drink a lot of red wine at a cocktail party or theater when you’d really, honestly prefer is cold beer, pizza and a movie.

After you’ve defined yourself as a brand and can describe yourself thoroughly, from your tires to your, er, headlights, you’re ready to start writing that personals ad. You’ve already done all the hard work, so the writing will be very easy. And you didn’t think it would be, did you?

Some other things you want to keep in mind as you write your personals ad are:

• Keep it positive. That is, unless you want to attract someone who reads Sylvia Plath poems for kicks. Which, hey, is no problem if that’s your idea of a good time.

• Be short and to the point. This isn’t the place for your life history. Let that part come later.

• While keeping it short, don’t overdo the abbreviations. A few are fine, but too many are irritating.

• Hit your high spots. If you have the sleek lines of a Jag, say so. If you’re as trustworthy and loyal as a Toyota, speak up! Let your chrome wheels shine!

• Voice your passions. Yep, if you’re wild about 4-wheeling to the point you’d rather than have mud on your tires than eat when you’re hungry, don’t be afraid to say so.

• Creativity rules. You’re clever. Just that fact that you’ve found this marvelous way to meet people and find dates shows it! So you want to stay away from clichés in your writing, and think of new, fresh ways to describe yourself and your attributes. Saying you’re loyal will most likely get a yeah, yeah, but say that when it comes to your friends, you stick like mud on tires, now that will have people eager to know more about you.

Following these tips will help you write a personals ad that won’t just be noticed—it’ll guarantee you not only get replies, you’ll get dates!

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