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Did you know that two out of five single people in the UK now use some kind of Internet dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! Finding the love of your life on Internet dating sites is not easy, in fact it’s less than a 10% chance that these people will.

Why is this? Yes, some sites are far better than others, find the right one for you, ease of use is a good consideration. It’s what you do on the site after signing up that’s important. Take my word for it, unless you take the five simple steps that I’m about to outline, you may as well do something more productive with your time than join a singles site. This may sound simple and pretty obvious, but you’d be surprised at how many people make things difficult for themselves. Right lets get started…

1. Create A Great Profile. This is the most important part of your Internet dating site experience. Don’t just say ‘Nice guy seeks nice girl for trips to the cinema’ – how boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet. Being miserable about your recent split is not going to help you, always sound confident, full of life and happy! It’s important to be honest, if you think you are good looking then let everyone know. And humour is a real ice-breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more likely to want to contact you.

2. A photograph is essenstial. Even if you don’t have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Don’t forget that the majority of people on Internet dating sites, will not even read the profile of anyone who does not show a picture of themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to reason that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn’t recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.

3. Be Proactive. Don’t just join a site and expect other people to contact you. A regular search for compatible people is important, if you find someone who fits the bill then get in touch with them as soon as you can.

4. Write Great Emails. Right. You are now a member of an Internet dating site, you’ve done a search for compatible members and you are now looking at a page full of profiles. You are excited to send out a few emails…but what can you possibly say in them? Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line message to several people, then they probably wont bother to reply. Tell that person a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible – respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and you’ll just be ignored.

5. Check Back With The Site. The reasons for doing this as often as possible are twofold. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last visited the site so don’t miss out. However, what most people don’t realise is that when you log-in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently contacted by other people. While being a member of an Internet dating site its important to visit it frequently, as many times as possible really.

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What do you think?
Do you agree?
Or do you disagree and why?

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I ignore it and just keep working. But I don’t approve of it.
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A Man’s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

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