Flirting Mistakes – 8 Things Not To Do

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Posted by admin | Posted in Dating | Posted on 16-08-2010

Being a good flirt has as much to do with not doing the wrong things as it does with doing the right things. Flirting is difficult because there’s such a fine line between being successful and crashing and burning.

It’s so easy to do everything right, but then ruin all of your progress by making one of the all too common mistakes below.

1) Don’t be crude
If you make obvious and nasty sexual innuendoes, you aren’t being a turn on, you’re being a pervert…unless you’re a girl (then it’s ok).

2) Don’t ignore body language
Over 65% of communication is non-verbal. If you aren’t actively looking at the way their body is shifting or what the person’s eyes are saying, you’re going to miss a lot of obvious signs that say “I’m into you, keep talking.”…or…”You’re a freak, and I don’t want you around a second longer.”

3) Avoid being overtly slick
It’s fine to act cool, but don’t go overboard. You won’t seem like yourself…and that’s not attractive.

4) Don’t be silly
Flirting should make your target feel sexy and wanted, not entertained. You want to be perceived in a sexual way…not as the funny guy or girl.

5) Don’t be excessively cute
If you act too cute (unsexy), you’ll be seen as an innocent and nice person. That’s great if you want to be just a friend, but not for anything more.

6) Cut your losses if it’s obvious your actions aren’t appreciated
If your flirtations are clearly visible and you aren’t being flirted with back, it’s time to pack it up and move on.

7) Don’t show fear
Insecurity is perceived as a terribly unattractive sign of weakness. If you want to get your target to take you seriously, you’ve got to hide your nerves. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

8) Avoid being overly touchy feely…unless you’re a girl
This is specifically aimed at the guys. It’s not appropriate to grope or touch a woman unless you know she likes you. If you aren’t sure that she’s into you, it’s ok to lightly touch her shoulder or graze her arm…but that’s it! Do not put your arm around her waist or constantly touch her shoulder or body. This will freak her out and make her feel terribly uncomfortable around you.

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The Relevance Of Alcohol Treatment And How Mental Health Issues And Alcohol Addiction Frequently Lead To Friendship, Relationship, Divorce, And Marital Problems

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Posted by admin | Posted in Main Content | Posted on 05-07-2010

Miss Benning was a health instructor at the largest private high school in the local community. Although she had been teaching for only three years, she had already established a reputation as an instructor with instructional approaches that stimulated and encouraged the students in her class to learn and to think.

As an illustration, one Monday morning she addressed the pupils in her class and announced the following: “For the next four or five days we are going to learn about some basic alcoholism facts from a general standpoint and we are also going to learn about several of the most highly researched signs of alcoholism from a more detailed point of view.”

“Not all of these alcoholism signs will without doubt establish that a drinker with a drinking problem is an alcohol addicted individual, but the more signs that an individual manifests, the more likely it is that he or she is an alcohol addicted person.”

Miss Benning then told the members of the class that each person would be accountable for studying four alcoholism signs and then presenting his or her findings to the other members in the class via a eight minute oral presentation.

The Students are Energized About Giving A Comprehensive Presentation to Their Fellow Classmates About The Signs of Alcohol Addiction

After learning about the various signs of alcohol dependency for quite a few days, the time had finally come for the oral presentations. It was immediately evident that her pupils were thrilled about the subject matter because the information that they presented was excellent. To say that Miss Benning was pleasantly surprised with the interest manifested by her students concerning this topic could not be overstated.

The day after all of the pupils completed their presentations, Miss Benning passed out a piece of paper with a list of all the alcoholism signs that were discussed and presented in class and in the presentations. Miss Benning then asked the students in her class to go over the list and rank the top ten alcohol dependency signs that were most indicative of alcoholism. After approximately ten minutes, Miss Benning collected the pieces of paper and informed the pupils in her classroom that after she tallies the numbers, she will present her findings the next school day.

There was a real buzz by the pupils while they were exiting Miss Benning’s class. One could swear that her pupils couldn’t wait for the next day to arrive so that they could learn about the results of their in-class research.

The Students Compare Their Answers With the Findings From A Panel of Chemical Dependency Authorities

When the next school day finally arrived, Miss Benning gave out a sheet of paper that listed the top three alcohol addiction signs as per the pupils’ rankings. To the right of these results, she included another column that was labeled “correct answer.” She then informed the pupils in her class that the numbers in the additional column she added signified the findings that were articulated by a council of alcohol dependency specialists.

Miss Benning told the pupils in her class to look over the information on the piece of paper she handed out and then to raise their hand if they had any issues, questions, or concerns. Within 40 or 50 seconds, just about every pupil in the classroom raised his or her hand. It was obvious that the students had some concerns, issues, or questions about their results versus the answers given by the experts. For example, just about every individual in the class had an issue with the highest ranked answer given by the authorities, that is, “Do you feel exceptionally sick when you stop drinking?”

The Chief Difference Between Alcohol Addiction and Alcohol Abuse is the Physical Addiction That is Experienced With Alcoholism and Not With Alcohol Abuse

Miss Benning then informed her students why this answer was the most unambiguous sign of alcohol dependency. She emphasized the fact that the most important difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency is the physical dependency that is experienced with alcohol dependency and not with alcohol abuse.

Fundamentally this means that when an alcohol addicted person suddenly quits drinking, he or she will suffer through alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

Miss Benning then informed the students in her class that alcohol withdrawal symptoms are responses by the body and by the brain to the lack of alcohol to which they had become accustomed. Stated differently, alcohol withdrawal symptoms are messages from the body and from the brain telling a person who is alcohol dependent that something is very misaligned and needs to be fixed. These signals consist of several uncomfortable, dangerous, and painful withdrawal symptoms that can possibly result in a loss of life if the proper therapy is not immediately obtained.

Miss Benning then went over the multitude of alcohol withdrawal symptoms that can be gone through when an individual who is addicted to alcohol abruptly stops drinking.

The point that Miss Benning tried to underscore was this: a person who engages in alcohol abuse can experience almost any and every one of the alcoholism signs that the students had ranked, but the one sign or symptom that few, if any, people who engage in alcohol abuse ever experience is alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

To explain this as plainly as possible, Miss Benning emphasized the point that alcohol abusers, unlike individuals who are alcohol dependent, are not alcohol dependent and consequently, when they quit drinking, they almost never suffer from alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

The Pupils Feel They Have Discovered An Inconsistency With the Findings From The Group of Alcoholism Specialists

The students also had a problem with the second ranked answer given by the substance abuse professionals, that is to say, “Have you ever had a drink the first thing in the morning to get rid of a hangover or to steady your nerves?”

Miss Benning told her pupils that this sign does not inevitably denote that the problem is alcohol addiction, but that it does emphasize the need that individuals who are addicted to alcohol have to drink in order to prevent alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

After Miss Benning explained the significance of alcohol withdrawal symptoms in the life of the individual who is addicted to alcohol, the students started to recognize the main difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency.

To add a sense of closure to the topic, Miss Benning asked her students to take out a sheet of paper and answer the following question: “if every person who is an alcoholic knew about every one of the alcoholism signs and alcohol withdrawal symptoms we have studied, what percentage of them do you think would ask for alcohol rehabilitation?”

After roughly two or three minutes, Miss Benning asked for the pupils’ predictions. While many pupils reasoned that approximately 75 to 85 percent of people who are addicted to alcohol would seek alcohol dependency rehab if they knew about the facts related to alcohol withdrawal symptoms and alcohol dependency signs, most of the pupils reasoned that this number would not be less than 65 percent.

The Students Were Astonished to Discover That Only 25% of People Who are Alcohol Dependent in the United States Obtain Alcohol Treatment

To the astonishment of most of the pupils, Miss Benning acknowledged that according to various scientific investigations, only 25% of the alcohol dependent people in the U.S. obtain alcohol dependency rehab. This surprised most of the pupils because they reasoned that exposure to the dreadful statistics and facts associated with alcohol dependency would motivate the majority of the individuals who are alcohol dependent to seek alcohol treatment.

Miss Benning then explained that alcohol dependent people not only need alcohol on a daily basis in order to function but they also need alcohol on an everyday basis so they can keep away from possible alcohol withdrawal symptoms. Obviously, the alcohol addicted person’s need to drink on a daily basis is more powerful than facts or logic. Indeed, because the craving for alcohol is “reality” to the alcoholic, this is very hard to undo.

The Combination of Alcohol Addiction and Mental Health Issues Commonly Leads to Relationship, Divorce, Marital, and Friendship Problems

Lastly, Miss Benning explained to her students that it is relevant to conceptualize that alcohol dependency and different mental health difficulties such as depression are highly associated. In addition, the occurrence of mental health difficulties and alcoholism frequently result in marital, relationship, divorce, and friendship problems.

The Pupils are Motivated to Learn About Alcoholism Symptoms and Signs in Today’s Society

A few minutes later the bell rang, meaning that the end of class had arrived. Based on the enthusiasm manifested by the students when they were leaving the room, Miss Benning knew that she had stimulated and encouraged the students in her classroom to stop and think about an important health and social problem that exists in our society.


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Can Men And Women Agree On Anything?

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Posted by admin | Posted in Main Content | Posted on 23-06-2010

Men and women are so different and have such different tastes, it’s amazing that they can live together at all. When there are so many differences, how can they be reconciled?

Television producers are pretty clever when it comes to devising plots and characters that appeal to both men and women. They can do this because their characters are multi-faceted. A male lead may be admired by men because of his intelligence or courage, while a woman will see his more vulnerable side. They are watching the same show, but men and women are not seeing the same thing!

In our daily lives, however, there are some things that men just have to put up with about the women in their lives and that women have to accept about their men. What man really gets a thrill when he returns home from a day at the office and finds that his wife has just bought a vase that cost about half his day’s earnings? Home decor accents are not exactly high on a man’s list of priorities in life!

Women often shake their heads in bewilderment when their husbands go out and buy a homelite chainsaw just because one branch of a tree needs cutting. They’ll use the saw once and then it will sit in the garage for years. What women don’t understand is that the man has been dying to work with a chainsaw and can’t resist the opportunity when it comes.

It’s all kind of a comedy, really and that’s part of the reason why men and women can’t live without each other. Life would be pretty bland if women and men had the same kinds of desires. Opposites attract because they complete each other, not because they repel each other.

Of course, there are many areas in which men and women are in complete agreement. An outdoor loving couple will readily agree on buying a Schwinn mountain bike, for instance. Their matching bikes afford them the opportunity to explore the great outdoors together.

Sure, the woman might stop to smell the flowers along the way while the man might race down the hill without even noticing them, but both of them are enjoying the great outdoors together. When they get to their destination, they share a drink from the same water bottle and share their stories about the ride together.

Of course, it’s not all so black and white. There’s a mixture of male and female in all of us. Sometimes it’s the girl who wants to speed down the hill while the guy stops to take a photograph of the horizon. That’s the beauty of differences. They add dimensions to life that nothing else could.


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Enabling, Alcoholism, And Alcohol Relapse: The Need For Family And Dating Relationships That Are Truthful And Not Destructive

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Posted by admin | Posted in Main Content | Posted on 30-05-2010

It is interesting to mention something that family members who have been adversely affected by the alcohol dependency of another family member apparently do not realize. It seems to be that by protecting the alcohol dependent person with falsehoods and dishonesty to those outside the family, these well-intentioned family members have in reality created a situation that makes it easier for the alcohol dependent person to carry on and move forward with his or her harmful, detrimental way of living. Unfortunately, what applies to family relationships also applies to dating relationships.

Indeed, rather than helping the alcoholic and themselves, these family members and dating partners have in reality become enablers who have involuntarily helped negatively affect the alcohol addicted individual’s drinking problem even further.

Perhaps the real downside of this is that the alcohol addicted individual will continue drinking in an excessive and irresponsible manner and experience diverse “alcohol side effects.” Some of these side effects include diminished mental functioning, employment difficulties, poor health, deteriorating relationships, legal issues (such as getting arrested for one or more DUIs), and considerable financial problems.

The Likelihood of a Relapse is Real

According to the research literature and statistics on alcohol addiction, another key alcohol addiction issue concerns alcohol relapses. Relapses take place when an alcohol dependent person has fruitfully gone through alcohol addiction therapy and then returns to drinking a number of weeks or months later. At first glance, this predicament seems contradictory to logical thinking and sounds so implausible that it forces one to speculate why anyone who has experienced the awfulness of alcohol dependency can return to drinking a short while after effective alcohol rehab and in turn after achieving recovery. There are, for sure, more than a few credible reasons for this.

It should be noted, nevertheless that alcohol addiction research that has centered on the long standing consequences of alcohol addiction has demonstrated-proven that long after the alcohol dependent person has stopped his or her drinking, significant changes in the way in which the alcohol dependent person’s brain works are still present. As a result, all a recovering alcohol dependent person has to do to involve himself or herself in behaviors that correspond with the modifications that have occurred in the brain is to start drinking once again.

A Requirement for A Critical Lifestyle Transformation

There are even more reasons why quite a lot of recovering alcoholics return to drinking a few weeks or a few months after reaching sobriety. According to the alcohol dependency research literature, to make an effective recovery, the alcoholic needs new ways of reacting and thinking in order to deal more successfully with tough alcohol-related circumstances that will take place.

Situations such as returning to the same alcohol addictive environment or to the same geographic location; interacting once again with friends from the days when the alcohol addicted individual was drinking irresponsibly; or familiar songs, smells, or activities—all of these conditions can bring forth memories that can trigger psychological tension or push hot buttons that influence the recovering alcohol addicted individual to engage in irresponsible drinking once again. Unfortunately, all of these situations may not only negate enduring alcohol recovery for the alcohol dependent individual but they can also result in relapse and thus short-circuit one’s sobriety.

The Good News: There’s a Lot of Hope for Lasting Sobriety

In an attempt to “protect” the family’s alcohol dependent person, family members can in point of fact cause inadvertent harm by enabling the harmful drinking behavior of the alcohol addicted individual.

The addiction research literature confirms the fact that most people who effectively complete alcohol counseling experience at least one relapse. Alcohol addicted persons and their family members need to know this so that they do not get depressed or stressed out when a relapse occurs.

Luckily, taking part in support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous and follow-up therapy and training have resulted in more successful, enduring alcohol abuse and alcohol addiction rehab outcomes, have helped decrease alcohol relapses, and have helped recovering alcohol addicted individuals achieve long-term sobriety.


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Dating – How To Earn Love

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Posted by admin | Posted in Main Content | Posted on 20-05-2010

Love will build your heart with its dreamy songs and make a wondrous enchanting globe for you personally to live in. How are you proceeding to generate positive which they whom that suits you so much will like you? How can you be positive of winning really enjoy? Do this noticeable.

Appreciate this steady pleasure that it’ll bring you. And sense for yourself how great your adore everyday living has turn out to be. You are madly in adore with somebody. You need that someone to like you too. What do you do? Uncomplicated! Visualize!

Keep in mind, enjoy has every thing to try and do together with your cardiovascular system and head. If you possibly can maintain your coronary heart nutritious and in very good relation with you, then you definitely may well have all with the adore you need. Picture your heart. It is possible to visualize it like am precise biological heart, or it might be a symbolical valentine cardiovascular system.

Go forward and request your cardiovascular about how it can be experience today. Could it be experience unfortunate? Lonely? Disappointed? Understand the way in which that it can be emotion. Notice what it’s received to say for you. Then notify your cardiovascular system you’re trying to make it feel greater. What’s the situation of the heart? Could it be unfortunate? Or would it be clean. Does it appear healthy? Or could it be torn or wounded? Is it wounded? Now mend your cardiovascular system.

You might have all on the tools required. If it truly is torn at locations, stitch them. If it is injured, then deal with it is wound.

When your center appears wholesome, fill it to bursting with light. Imagine the shining light flow into your coronary heart and reach it is each nook and corner.

Your cardiovascular isn’t just nutritious now it even feels alive.

Notice your heartbeats? Make it sense fine. Thank your cardiovascular for keeping you alive.

Applaud its untiring overall performance. The additional that you thank your center, the a lot more balanced it turns into. Now that your heart is wholesome and cheerful, you are now ready to acquire really enjoy.

Picture the man or women you like or whom you desire one of the most. See the individual obviously? How can she/he appear? What colour may be the hair? What type of garments he / she’s putting on? How tall may be the individual? Is there any gesture that’s specifically his / hers? Let the individual look in front of you. How much would be the man or woman? Provide him / her nearer to at one of the most five feet from you. Now, image your healthful heart hooked as much as his / her cardiovascular.

You can use any materials that suits you for connection. A rope, chain, satin ribbon it can be just anything. It may be even illusory. The objective would be to attach prefer to adore, so a experiencing of power flows among you each. When you could have linked enjoy, visualise your self undertaking some thing loving to the specific you adore.

Do something that folks who really enjoy 1 an additional does. Walk aspect by part, go for the dance, sit throughout for some ice cream, love a single a different, cuddle a single one more you may even kiss a person yet another. The far more that you just visualise the man or women you like in the way explained above, the stronger the enjoy flows between you both. Till one particular day, you embrace and kiss the man or women to point out how a lot you adore her / him.

And if ever you are emotion that love starts to vanish, go thru the visualisation once more.

Allow Really enjoy live forevermore.

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